A Nigeria Married woman narrates how she was raped before her husband, now the husband wants to divorce her because she enjoyed the rape.
“I am a banker in my early 30s and going through a messy divorce. I married my husband as a virgin. I have never been with any man but him until I was raped. I didn’t know anything about orgasm, climax or what have you because i have never experienced it. 8 years of marriage with a miserable sex life. i have two children from my marriage.
“It happens that we travelled to my husband village during Easter period. While in his country home by 1 am in the night our house was raided by armed robbers a gang of 7 members.
“It was a very terrifying experience, after collecting all the valuables at home, the leader turned to rape me. The leader tied my husband to a chair, tore my clothe and went on to show me his manhood that he will use it on me.
“I was frightened, i begged him and cried but he wouldn’t listen. It was a rape that cost me my marriage. As the guy was entering me, I was supposed to feel pains but that wasn’t so. I felt a kind of electrifying sensation that I have never felt in my whole life. I screamed oh my God, as he started pounding on me I didn’t know when I was holding him hard and begging him not to stop to the amazement of others, I was enjoying being raped by a criminal.
“I was told I was screaming very hard when I wanted to cum. Yes, I had my first orgasm through rape and since then my life hasn’t been the same. The robber took me two rounds which I came both times. I don’t know what happened, if it was my village people that pursued me, but all I can say is that I haven’t had such with my husband. My husband gave me the beatings of my life after the robbers left.
‘He called me unprintable names, i am a prostitute, he didn’t know I was an Ashawo. He can’t marry an Ashawo. i was hospitalized for two weeks as a result of that incident and his beatings.
“My husband left me at the hospital and travelled back to our home. i was damaged. how could such a thing happen to me? what was responsible for me enjoying being raped and even Cuming as a result of it?
“How could i even enjoy such act of cruelty on my body? these were the question i kept asking myself. When i got discharged i met a divorce papers waiting for me to sign. I tried begging my husband, involved my parents but he swore instead of staying with me he will rather die. That i am a disgrace to his life. My husband is a rich guy, so when our divorce news broke out, while i was denying it, he kept telling everyone that i am a whore. it took me months to accept my predicament and move on. I am still healing, still seeing my therapist.
“But one thing i know is that i am not what my husband says i am. i am just a woman who was sexually starved. i did not pray to be raped, but it was the turning point of my life. i just feel like sharing this with you my family because it will help me.
“Please don’t judge me, because you don’t know my pains. By July i will be through with the divorce. I just want you all to wish me well with my new life.
“I pray to find love in the nearest future.